[He doesn't understand what being married changes about them knowing who they're coming back to (how is that not the case already?) but the man putting this in terms of something he wants is something that does penetrate. A personal desire he can relate to. And if he's being selfish about this in turn, it's for good reason, on the back of everything he's seen marriage do to people.]
You don't know that nothing will change - you can't know that. [Yes, Toby's been married before, but it wasn't a real marriage, even by the man's own words.]
What if the reason we've worked out together the way we have, is because we've chosen one another in our own way? You want this because it satisfies some romantic fantasy you've had about our relationship since we started. [Basically.] Yeah? What if you get it, and realize it doesn't hold up anywhere near to the idea in your mind?
That's how these things work, Toby. Especially with me. I've seen it a thousand times.
[After something like that, which always happens to him when someone holds him up to some kind of romantic ideal, everything always turns into disillusionment and resentment.]
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You don't know that nothing will change - you can't know that. [Yes, Toby's been married before, but it wasn't a real marriage, even by the man's own words.]
What if the reason we've worked out together the way we have, is because we've chosen one another in our own way? You want this because it satisfies some romantic fantasy you've had about our relationship since we started. [Basically.] Yeah? What if you get it, and realize it doesn't hold up anywhere near to the idea in your mind?
That's how these things work, Toby. Especially with me. I've seen it a thousand times.
[After something like that, which always happens to him when someone holds him up to some kind of romantic ideal, everything always turns into disillusionment and resentment.]